Notes from a Friend's Town

1. John Mayer's song "Fathers" directly reminds every man that the women in his life were at some point daughters. Daughter that need(ed) love, attention, respect , & encouragement. I'm not interested in electro-shocking the dead horse of absentee fathers, but if you have daughters, God-daughters, nieces, sisters, etc make sure that they receive all the emotional support to become complete women who are able to engage in well thought out decision making exercises with confidence. 2. At times, I take pleasure in argument for the sake of argument. Occasionally, I'll even entertain such while I'm drinking. Just to see how long I can banter before the flood of alcohol removes some blood from my brain so my liver can knock out the sugar surplus. However, such experiences are usually relegated to arguments where I retain a vested interest, a proverbial dog in the fight. (If that offends you, you're welcomed to leave) I'll go on the record & state th...

1. I woke up the other morning with a whirlwind of ideas passing through my mind as I reached for my glass of water. It was far too early to call anyone, so I spent part of my morning ritual talking to Chewy. Mind you, he only looked attentive in the moment I mentioned food. 2. Less than 30 days away from my least favorite holiday and I'm dreading it already. I can't stand shopping for anything during this stretch because those crappy decorations abound. 3. Even though it's a huge investment that constantly needs more funding, I'm quite excited to hear my friends talk of buying a house soon. 4. There are times when the use of "tact" greatly undermines the urgency & the essence of the message. Ahhh, the things we do out of concern for our fellow (wo)man. 5. It's been requested that I restructure the blog. In particular, that I post more critically engaging essays about current events. I'm reviewing the idea and have considered even starting a 2...

1. Heavy rain calms my mind down considerably. Soo much that drinking during heavy rain has the potential to knock me out. 2. Don't play around with your significant other for 7 yrs. If ya'll ain't made it to marriage phase by then end that ish w/ a bang & walk away smiling. 3. You've got to be comfortable being alone, not just capable of doing it. You need to able to come home on cold night, wanting to cuddle with another human being & realizing that life will not fail to continue should you pass the night alone. Unfortunately, the lesson takes awhile for some to master. 4. Didn't anticipate the night taking such a turn, twice. I suppose a more discrete approach would have been effective, but I wasn't in the mood for such. Tis a shame we were on different pages. 5. My mixologist>>>>>>>>anyone you can call. 6. Growing up in a financially rocky but emotionally stable house does wonders for your mental endurance when you'r...

1. Fell for the hypebeast, saw Tron, & got a movie pass from the manager because the disc was scratched. Funny how life balances out. 2. The only people who can do the most without breakfast are super heroes. I've tried on numerous occassions and the results are pretty lack luster. 3. What's the word on parents who bring their children in on the conversation regarding how they (children) are raised? Since when did parents cease being dictators, making it clearly known where boundaries reside? How can you expect to raise a generation that genuinely respects it's elders when you allow children to determine how their world will actually opperate? 4. What if the pretense was abandoned and we just played it out as it developed?? No play making, no strategies, just moving forward with it as it became clearer what it was. Perhaps such a luxury is the material of children's dreams and has no business crossing my mind, certainly less business clearing my lips. 5. Every ...

1. Once you begin to develop a feminist understanding, especially as a man of color, it becomes very difficult to view things outside of that context. More often than not, the lens of scrutiny causes the most discomfort when you place your familial reality underneath it . 2. It's amazing the shit you'll accept when you think a dream has come to fruition, even if the dream isn't actualized in it's entirety. What kind of dream doesn't come true completely? It's unfortunate that fear & emotional issues prevented the possibilities from being explored completely, off paper, in the five dimensional world. 2a. Fuck niggas, bitches too, all I trust is my pride & this'll do. 3. The quickest way to compromise contentment is to introduce the situation to inquiry. 4. What's the score with the false friends?? It shouldn't be that much of a chore to maintain a vested interest in the person you declare your friend. It shouldn't take an act of congr...

1. Seriously, I live less than 100 miles from a large body of water & the humidity has hovered between 37-48%. This is some bullshat. 1a. There is indeed a limit to your love, much like a map with no ocean. 2. It's imperative to clear one's subconscious of any lingering doubts, desires, & disappointments before transitioning from one phase to another. It makes the arrival much smoother & allows one to focus all their energies on the present. 3. All beauty & no brains shorten much the courting game. All brains & no beauty absolves one from courting duties. 4. Make your own informed decisions, stand by those decisions, & dismiss any rebuttals to those decisions that are void of logic. 5. I've been reviewing my own understanding of the phrase "Only men can raise men". At one time, I believed in the notion whole heartedly, that only men can produce men. Then I was forced to acknowledge the men I knew that were raised in homes without thei...

1. Well, now that that's done & yes it's quite early, but trust me on this one. I'll take something brown & old on ice. Cheerio!! 2. She called & we walked thru the civilities before she proceeded to let me have a piece of her mind. No banned words, no front row seat to the resurrections promises. Her voice was calm, her breaths measured. My head hung in shame as though she stood before me. 3. The more I understand how it works, the less mystique lies in the whole of the experience. I'm very much a fan of the mystique and appreciate the enrapturing nature of the allure. 4. Once I take care of the people on my Christmas list, I'll be good. It's not that I don't want anything, it's that my most immediate need is one that I'll take care of soon. 5. Never underestimate the physiological effects of a physical place on your productivity. I once thought it foolishness until I started paying attention to how much was being accomplished at o...